We who are strong ought to bear with the failings of the weak and not to please ourselves. Romans 15:1. This says everything we need to know and which we know even prior to hearing or reading it. If someone wants pleasure and exerts energy, strength, and power just for his own pleasure then we wouldn’t really trust such a person. If someone leaves just for himself then such a life is pitiful. In the end this all depends on everyone’s conscience, no one can really know better than I do what is best for me, but I can be inspired by other people’s act and words.