I was on a social care course about limits and boundaries in our work with clients. The essential question was: Is it possible to be professional-“unfriendly” and yet good? I do not need an empirical knowledge to know that it is not good to be friends with my clients(with mental handicap), on the other hand I should learn them to make their own authentic friends . This stems from experience,some may make friends,some do not,this differs,we cant conclude which approach is a better one. What is good we can know,its not good to make friends in order to get rid of their natural friends(also with handicap) or on the other hand in order to have them as friends. This is absolute consensus. If what i describe is not its primary aim( experience is not absolutely transmittable) but prescriptive,then i use it absolutely then we reach consensus. What stems from experience is relative. Words may open your eyes,because you realize,even without prior empirical knowledge and experience that what you do (too friendly an approach) towards the clients may do them harm-this can be seen as a universal consensus that something is right and something wrong. I may not intend to hurt the client through being friends with him intentionally but when someone tells me it’s hurting him I realize it is right and I should stop being friends with the client and rather help him find his own friends. This does not depend on previous experience .I do not need any experience to understand that what I do is wrong. And through words we understand each other absolutely when talking about Good and Evil way of doing things. If I learn via words that what I do is evil,then I may be changed,because i understand absolutely,via words one never expresses absolute individual,unique experience. if I learn that by being friends with client I hurt them,then via words i can be changed-learn that i was hurting them. But dilemma whether to give money to a homeless or bot stems from experience(one may give because he believes in an individual freedom,the other not give because he does not want them to learn to be dependent on others). Words can only show good an evil way of living-which does not depend on any empirical knowledge of experience.
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