I read a story about a woman who had, according to her own words, a perfect relationships with her husband but fell in love with a colleague of hers. This is nothing new and happens very often, but what strikes me is that she says that she cant avoid falling in love. Are we machines that are pre-programmed for some things and these are inevitable or do we havea free choice any conditions notwithstanding? I would gladly believe the second option. If a woman falls in love with a stranger although she has a husband and a nice relationship then such a woman is more of an animal than a human. Another situation would be if she willingly wanted to end an unhealthy relationship and her falling in love was just an impetus to do it. If a woman says that she has no other choice than to think about the colleague and ignore her husband, if not cheat on him, how can we then live in a society and function with other people? If her story was true and she really could not do otherwise, I would like to belive that she is more an animal than a human because a free choice to do what I believe is right according to my conscience is what makes us different from animals. I sometimes see or hear about a woman who desires a baby so much that they rather marry a bad man than be alone. Is this also a confinment of our nature? Are we led by what nature tells us? When one is hungry it is natural to eat, when one desire children then it is natural to have them, but what if a woman desires to be with some other person in an intimate relationship than with the person she is already in a relationship? I do not want to judge because in the end, everything depends on an individual conscience, what I do not like about this story is the fact that she says that she cannot do otherwise. We always can do otherwise. Unless she willingly goes to the colleague and betrays her husband then she still has a choice – and vica versa, if she betrays her husband then she betrays willingly and with full consciesness. This is not about not having a choice, it is all about doing the right or wrong choice. Psychology tells us that if one thinks about something all the time it is very often because one does not want to leave the thought, not because he could not leave it. If one believes that he cannot leave the thought then of course the though will not go away.
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