What is encouragment good for?
I read autobiography of malcolm x where he says that should his teacher encourage him when he was young to be a lawyer, he would not become the leader of the Nation of Islam. The teacher did not encourage him to any such feat but told him to be realistic and become a carpenter or something that would fit to the fact the he was black. Malcom was not disencouraged by this and worked hard to become something. Here we see that encouragment may not work well in certain situations. we all need to be helped and supported in certain age. however, our parents, friends but also enemies want us to be in the way they want us, in the way they think that is best or worst for us. these views may be benefitial for us only when we do not let ourselves be absolutely influenced by their opinions. anything that comes from the outside must be taken seriously but not inevitably helpful to us. taking the influence from outside too seriously may be very harmful for us. in social care we say that any our client whom we try to help is the only specialist about ones own life. we may suggest something but the last words must always be on the client. if we try to help him too much, we harm him. this is naturally a bit paradoxical but it is inevitably true. we may not think that we know better than anyone else what is best for him. this is hard to understand because my occupation is helping others, but I must always tell myself that I should not be helping them to live their lifes according to my view, but helping them to be able to help themselves to live the life they want to live.
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