(un)even relationships

I met a friend at the pub whom I haven’t seen for years. She was drunk and asked if I could open a bottle of wine for her. I could not because we were at a bar and she started yelling at the bartender to open the bottle for her. The bartender didn’t want to open it because he wanted to sell his bottles. She started bargaining and wanted to have it open. It seemed to me that the only thing she wanted was to win and to show that she is stronger then men. she even wanted to pay to open the bottle, just to show that she is more powerful than men. I know that she had problems in her relationship and then now her intention was probably to revenge on other men then her former partner. Women should not be docile and week but it is natural for women to be guarded by men, I mean husbands. if a woman tries to deny her role in a partnership as the one that should be cared for she goes I think against what is natural for her. She practically goes against her happiness. same as when men do not take the role of guard of women and are subdued by women. Such an uneven relationship cannot function. Men should guard there wives and women shoes be guarded by their husbands husbands. this does not mean that the a woman is weaker but she is different. men are physically stronger and have the instinct to guard women and women on the other hand need protection and care for their husbands in other way then man do for women.

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The choice to be with God

the choice to be with God or the choice to be in a marriage should not be found on the outer factors for example Beauty pleasure feelings and so on but on my own conscious choice. Faith isn’t always pleasurable. God’s ways are sometimes very painful so is marriage. My wife won’t be always beautiful but never the less I want to be with her. It is my choice. even though now she may be beautiful it is important to know that I want to be with her even though she would not be and will not be always physically attractive . same with God. I want to be faithful because my heart tells me so and all empirical evidence may claim the opposite. I should stand by what I believe is right even though everything May support opposite. This is inevitability of God .if I relativize Everything then I am God-less . if I find my heart’s voice then I know always what is right and what is wrong. We may never know the truth but belief is even more important than truth because belief is real . Take for example abortions. If I’m told to have a mutilated child and am recommended to have an abortion then I may logically follow what is easier for me. on the other hand if I believe in sacredness of life then I would never let any soul to die. Abortion is as well as anti conception always the easy choice. I do not want to sound dogmatic and say that all abortions and all anti conception cases are wrong or evil but it seems to me very improbable that there could be any good in it. Abstractly we can say that these things are evil but concrete cases and concrete people have to decide for themselves. Everyone is responsible only for his or hers own salvation . I cannot judge if someone else’s actions are good or evil because their conscience and their freedom is their uniqueness but not mine. I can only decide for myself what I do . it is important to tell other people what I think is good or evil but I must always know that I never know for sure. I can only be sure about my own conscience and my own choices.


Good versus pleasurable

a former Czech cardinal Spidlik says in Soul of a Pilgrim that he was not interested in sexuality,but even if a priest is interested in sexuality it does not mean that he should not be a priest. Maybe it is just the reason to be a priest. The more I am interested in something the more I have to be careful that it does not start controlling me. the more you want something the more you have to be careful so that it does not become your Idol.wanting anything is very dangerous thing to do. It is natural even for people living voluntarily in celibacy to be interested in sexuality in order to be able to control their sexuality. if I do the choice to be a priest or am living in a marriage then ideas about sex are natural for both categories . to indulge in such ideas is sinful but not the ideas themselves. If I want something very much then refraining from having it may be glorious in God’s eyes. On the other hand we have to be very careful about such Notions. if someone wants to be in a marriage very much there is no reason to a priest . it is all about my conscience and things that I do not do for own my pleasure but for doing good. If I believe that I should be a priest but also a husband then I must make a choice and decide which option is better in terms of goodness and which is more pleasurable in terms of bodily needs. Usually the more difficult choice is the better and right one because things that are not difficult have usually no value.


communication in a partnership

It seems to me sometimes that in a frame of men and woman partnership Women say so many things which they don’t really mean. women want to see the men act . it doesn’t matter what they say, they want the men to love them none the less. Even splitting up may be only an exhibition of the men of his Behavior after the supposed end of a relationship . for woman words do not mean so much. A man is then surprised that she didn’t really wanted to break up . never the less men should be conversant with this fact and should not reproach women because this is their Natural Instinct. They need to see if the man really love them whatever they do or say.


Is better hedonism (thinging) or ascetism (thinking)?

How can I recognize God´s call? I do not think that it is predetermined what one should be – whether a priest, a husband or anything else. It is up to us what we are, what we choose to be. God only wants from us to be free in our choice to be good. If he wanted to, he would guide is through everything, but he gave us freedom to trust in him. That is all he want. I only have to believe from my own free will that he will guide me, and he will. Once I make the choide, I should stand by it. If I split up with my girlfriend I should stand by my choice, not because I say egoistically that I can live without her, but because choice is the only think we have in this life. Of course, choices may change. I should not say to myself, that I do not want her and that I will stay by my decision my love to her notwithstanding. When I see that I still love her, I should be opened to reevaluation of my choice. Choice is never absolute, because future is unforseenable, but I should always stand by my present-time choice, which should always aim to please God. Future should be left up to him. It is basically about not doing what is pleasureable for body. For example masturbation may be pleasurable but definitely is not good, although many people would say, and even empirical research may suggest, that it is good to masturbate (for example to get rid of stress or agression). From a long-term perspective this is a detrimental view. God is not empirically proven. Murder can be empirically seen to be evil, because it hurts others, but some things are evil although they do not hurt anybody. For example, I persisted voluntary in seeing a nice woman with a lustful images in my head. I knew its evil and yet I did it. Once one does not refrain from such thoughts he sins. The thought itself is natural but indulging in it becomes sinful.Other think was that I watched myself in the mirror thinking how good and muscular I look and what I should wear so that others see it. Sin again, it is so stupid and ridiculous behaviour. Is better hedonism (thinging) or ascetism (thinking)? We have so little time and it is definitely better to use the little time we have not for a bodily pleasure but for Jesus´s cross. It may seem paradoxical but it is better to choose difficulty of spiritual life, than easiness and pleasure of a secular world. Once I know about something that it is wrong, I cannot linger on doing it. Conscious evil is the only evil we can do. What angers you is usually good, because once something makes you angry, you are confronted with your weakness instead of becoming a better person via not becoming angry but rather coping with my anger. When I talk about God and a spiritual way of life, people tell me that there is not God. But what if there is, what if what I say is really true, because, once you look into your conscience you know it is. It is not from my head, this is a universal Jesus´s school of love. If there is not God, it is still reasonable to do good, because good is the only think that makes us happy. Love and then do anything you want as St. Augustine said. What if what you do is wrong-just try to acknowledge it potentially and hypothetically-would you be willing to refrain from doing it? If not, then you did not acknowledge it and still live in your egoistical viewing of world. This is very often the case, unwillingness to at least acknowledge that what I hold as good (for example sex prior to marriage, masturbation etc) may not be good at all.