Second adolescence

I noticed that people sometimes, maybe always to a certain degree have two adolescneces. The first one comes around twelve and the other ten years later. Once the first adolescence finishes,the person becomes “adult” in a way, this is usually at eighteen. One studies a university or starts working. After the college or after some years at work one gets a feeling of not getting enough of the youth and here comes the second puberty or adolescence or some kind of phase of it. people have the need to enjoy as much as possible, have a new partner, because, usually girls, after finisheing the puberty find a partner and have him, or some other for some years. every college girl has a boyfriend, that is inevitable, it is a sign of being adult. I heard a saying that a woman at thirty is a launched rocket. I dare say that the same can be applied to boys as well.

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Sexuality and sin

I was arguing with my cousin about what is sex prior to marriage. He asked me if oral sex or reciprocal masturbation is sex or no. I told him not to think in this Paradigm of what is good,what is not so good what is almost evil and what is totally wrong. The question of whether Penetration of 5 centimeters is not sex and 10 centimeters is already sex is not possible. If someone gets aroused sexually by kissing them kissing already his cell phone. Anything that brings sexual pleasure prior to marriage is sinful .for someone even holding hands May be sexual and then one should avoid it. On the other hand we should not be afraid of touching the partner anywhere in order to learn if it still makes me aroused sexually or not. We should not be afraid of touching the other anywhere but we always must be ready to stop touching him or her if it arouses me or the partner


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Anti conception

It is terribly important to denote new things in order to know that they are evil. we do not need words for descriptive purposes but for prescriptive. To see if what i do or do not do is good or evil. There is never a finite answer,but finding the truth is never finite,it is a neverending process,but through words i can see that things i considered good may not be good at all. I recall an instance when i persuaded my friend to stop taking anticonception just by showing her that through such behaviour she damages her physical body,her mind and also her relationship. She herself saw that i am right and that she was so blind by considering totally evil behaviour for normal. Words were enough to totally change her attituted if not towards her life then at least to partnership and towards her body. Through words we can make the world a better just by constructing situations different from what they are now and then people can understand and agree that something may be better than it is now. Anticonception makes the natural flow and continuity between two people artificially hindered. Buy some this may be viewed as positive but It’s only supporting egotistical humans’ needs. Moreover it leaves all responsibility on the woman . man has no responsibility . About which equality between men and women can then we talk? Can we see destruction of natural fertility and growth of egoism and bodily pleasure as positive? Anti conception inevitably strengthens the view in men that women may be used whenever he wants her to use which is not natural. It diminishes women to only a tool for pleasure not an object of Love which should be cared for. Anti conception says that to relish in men’s lust is good. Now it depends on an individual conscience whether after such a knowledge one goes on taking anti conception as a good thing and whether one has a clear conscience by claiming that its good.


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Good versus pleasurable

a former Czech cardinal Spidlik says in Soul of a Pilgrim that he was not interested in sexuality,but even if a priest is interested in sexuality it does not mean that he should not be a priest. Maybe it is just the reason to be a priest. The more I am interested in something the more I have to be careful that it does not start controlling me. the more you want something the more you have to be careful so that it does not become your Idol.wanting anything is very dangerous thing to do. It is natural even for people living voluntarily in celibacy to be interested in sexuality in order to be able to control their sexuality. if I do the choice to be a priest or am living in a marriage then ideas about sex are natural for both categories . to indulge in such ideas is sinful but not the ideas themselves. If I want something very much then refraining from having it may be glorious in God’s eyes. On the other hand we have to be very careful about such Notions. if someone wants to be in a marriage very much there is no reason to a priest . it is all about my conscience and things that I do not do for own my pleasure but for doing good. If I believe that I should be a priest but also a husband then I must make a choice and decide which option is better in terms of goodness and which is more pleasurable in terms of bodily needs. Usually the more difficult choice is the better and right one because things that are not difficult have usually no value.

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Equally evil

Is it possible to agree with having sex prior to marriage and at the same time refrain from using or accepting usage of anticonception? Pleasure and easiness of casual sex is the same as with anti conception. the one who renounces anti conception must inevitably renounce sex for pleasure otherwise he accepts evil and at the same time rejects it. This is the case of all of us. We all renounce what we do not like or aren’t capable of reaching and we like and vindicate what is pleasurable and easy for us. In most such discussions I had my listeners agree with the fact that most things we talked about are evil but always find some that are evil as well but my listeners do not want to accept such evil things. The former example is one such instance . my Christian friends renounce and reject very severely abortion but less severely anti conception and almost see positively sex before marriage . it has to be acknowledged that all examples are equally evil only people do not want to accept it.

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