Pracuji v sociální sféře od roku 2010. Začínal jsem jako dobrovolník na Chráněném bydlení pro lidi s mentálním a kombinovaným postižením a autismem. Toto střediska patří pod Charitu Brno. Nyní pracuji jako vedoucí pracovník v týmu pěti lidí, kde mám na starost také komunikaci a výběr supervizorů, jelikož ze zákona musíme tuto podporu pracovníků naplnit.

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I work in the social sphere since 2010. I began as a volunteer at a sheltered housing for people with mental and combined handicap and autism. This institution belongs to the Charity in Brno. In the current time I am on the leading position in a team of five people where I am also in charge of communication and choice of supervisors because it is a legal condition to fulfill this support for the workers in social services. Having a Master degree from the Masaryk University ( Faculty of Philosophy ) in English language and Literature I offer the consultations also in English language.

Contact: adamsimonik@gmail.com,

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Price of supervision/coaching: 500/1h (60m). Price of group supervision: 700. First therapy for free

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self-evaluation and acceptance

Who am I?

I have been wondering lately about self consciousness, more precisely about the ability to be consciouss about one self and to evaluate ones traits and characteristics. this kind of self evaluation is I think very beneficial for one but on the other hand, is not it a bit of blasphemy against God to think His creation good, bad, better or worse in some ways? I think that the greatest fear of our lives is to accept who we are, accept the value of ourselves and admit that what we lack, where we do not like ourselves, in weakness of body or mind we are not imperfect by nature but by our choice. we should be ready to accept what we cannot change in ourselves but we should always bear in mind that it is not something faulty of Him, but rather our inability to accept it. if we choose to change it nevertheless, we should always distinguish between what we can change for better and what cannot be changed, here we should walk away from it. Our perception of ourselves shall never be perfect. maybe we are fortunate to be unable to know everything. many thing, maybe everything is based on our faith. even such fundamental issue as Gods presence is based on belief. I believe that I believe in God, but that is all I know. maybe it is good that I cannot know for sure, it is not because God would not want us to know, but that we would not be able to bear such knowledge. From other point of view, we may say that we are supposed to be strong and big. Nietzsche says that we should strive to be superhumans, demigods, not humble subhumans. can there be a synthesis of these two views? i personally see an immense strength in being both humble in front of God and even in front of myself because I myself bear God within me, this Gods trait in ourselves is what should be the mighty and imposing feature sought by ourselves. what is also incredibly important is that the greatest enemy is in me as well. the good and evil in ourselves is in a constant struggle. the Nietzsches view of demigod in ourselves that should confront God is I think the evil idea of ego, not power to supress ego and evil in ourselves. if I think that I can be as powerful as God, I am mistaken because I already am, God created be as strong as I should be and the acceptance of Gods power over me is the idea of strong humbleness. if I try to confront Him instead of seeing God as the Father that wants to help us, I feed the ego. this does not have to be in a disonance, I may and should feel strong even in acceptance of God as stronger than me. God is not the enemy we should fight but join in the battle against Evil, and in most cases against ourselves because what comes into us from the outside is not detrimental, only what comes out of us.

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some thoughts

Why are we afraid of having a child with some handicap? no one would like to have such a child. are we afraid of being seen as those who failed? i think that it is natural to have dreams and visions about what my life and life of my children would look like, nevertheless, the acceptance is in my view much more important for all concerned- for the parents and for the child alike.

I sometimes come across ideas about democracy which see it as the most perfect system ever. I think that it is very misleading. even in democracy there are great problems and the consensus which would have to have one hundred percent agreement would not be achievable and nothing would be created. sometimes it is necessary to both-listen to all (that is the principle of democracy) but it is impossible to fulfill the demands of all, sometimes to obey to the majority, in order to make another step higher

Sometimes even small things may cause great achievements. take for example that one buys a ticket for a stranger who is lost. it costs me only a few crowns but the stranger may never forget about it and such little thing may cause that he will talk about this country very positively abroad.

Why we read tabloids? To know that rich and famous also have problems? maybe we just need to know that even those living in luxury and riding shiny cars have the same troubles as we do. maybe we need to know that they are not living in a better surrounding, their money notwithstanding.

We hear that we living in an age of a human. we are capable of transplanting virtually any limb we have, to make technological miracles and even to create a new specie of rhino, which I read lately. creating a new specie or such that is extinct (due to human activity) is in my view supporting the idea of man that man can create and destroy what he wants. it gives us an alibi to kill species if we know we can create them again.

I ask myself how often we live in our heads, instead of saying and doing what we want we just imagine it in our heads in order to satisfy our need but not undergoing the risk of failing.

Question is what gives answers, asking never ends. there is nothing like an answer,because every answer incites mores questions.

I read a critique of today s literature because every tenth book is about cooking, what does it say about the society? We are more and more inclined to fulfil and satisfy the basic needs instead on focusing to go up the Maslow pyramid. Even the very intelligent do the basic things- they need to eat and sleep as much as the less intelligent, nevertheless, they were given the gift of intelligence and thus they are entitled and also responsible for those who were not endowed with such gifts. simillary, the less intelligent also must contribute vica versa with things they were endowed with, for example the ability to not calculate so much and be much more open and straightforward.

High politicians are often accused of lying. Do we want them to stop lying? I they stopped lying we could not say that they do it and thus we can too, because the higher people in hierarchy are the more prototypical they should be for the rest of the society.

Many modern people criticize Trump for being the way he is, but I think that it is a little bit irrelevant. the elite should criticize the voters because Trump is genuine to his voters- he does what he promised to in many ways and if he were different, he would betray his voters.

Unhappiness is when I do what I do not want to do. I believe that we all should try to be inspired by others but we should never do what other tell us what to do, that cannot make us happy. the happiness comes from within. this is what we can learn from others. not to do what they do, but how they do it. Sometimes paradoxically seeing how other do it can learn us how to do it in our lives.

Sometimes it seems to me that just writing and criticizing the world is easier than really doing something, but in fact thinking is very often much more difficult than doing something.

I heard that houses for elderly people in Holland are great complexes with barber shops, beauticians and so on. I ask whether it is really what people want. I heard a quote that the less God we have in our thinking, in ethics of companies and society generally, the more we compensate it by material things.

The limits of love to other are very difficult to draw. If I trust someone and he misuses the trust and makes me do things I do not want to then I must draw the line because the one not respecting the lines would stop to respect me. if I say genuinely that I do not like what one does then we keep the mutual self esteem. If I do what I do not want to (for example caring for someone in the family, having them at my own home and destroying the family ties because of such great burden) then I do less good than if I would put them into hospital. the trust is based on the balance between selfishness and stupidity. If I am too selfish, one cannot trust me, because I think more about my own good and all other cannot trust me. If I am too stupid and think more about the good of other, then I am not genuine as well, because I lose my self esteem and personality. I must accept that I am unique and must think about what I want but I must understand that all other people are as unique as I am and that I should love myself as I love others and I should love others as I love myself. Maybe that is what Jesus drew into the sand when they brought the woman who had committed adultery.

The speaker of our president of a man that compensates for the shame that our president does. He is a kind of antidote to the president because when people hear the speaker do the unpopular things, then although that president is the source of it, the people do not take it as seriously.

Self regulation of the judiciary system is a sign of its functionality. once the jury is ready to accept its faults and punish itself, then it is reliable for the people.

I ask myself why I do the kind of job I do-being a personal assistant for the people with mental handicap. I think that the main reason is that I am implemented in the process of their growth. I do not want them to be puppets listening to what I say but I do not want them to do anything they want what I consider bad for them. after all, it is my role to help them distinguish things that they cannot consider to be either good or not for them.

I heard a saying that we are today very much cyborgs by using mobile phones and medicine and drugs than we are by having artificial limbs.

The charity I work at and for comes for food that is thrown away in a supermarket nearby. Until that last year when the law was proposed to stop throwing it into the bing the supermarkets just threw everything away. unfortunately the homeless people are not able to get it then. prior to the new law, the homeless people could get it out of the bins because the knew where it was. now when we take it, they will not be able to get it. the sheltered housing I work at is not as poor as the homeless people. it is a pity that to get the food the lawlessness is better than when now the supermarkets must give it to the charity.

Should I support my partner in something I do not agree with? Once i do agree, she may influence others by my support the way I would like not. what if i support my child against my conscience but in order to do its will that I think should be supported?ii think that it is impossible to calculate about the future and very often the first idea is also the best one. A friend of mine told me do ever and say always the first thing that comes -honestly- to your mind, that means not being selfish or letting the anger upon other, but not being afraid of doing what I genuinely want to do.

Men have too high expectations when they approach women. they think that must do some great feets in order to attract them, but women really want a man that is reliable and un-selfish. the only problem is that women usually pay attention to the one that is most macho and most loud and attracts them at the first sight. women know their quest- it is in most cases to have children. to have strong children, they need a strong alpha male. however today, they may need more an intelligent although frail one because in the world of today the intelligence is much more vital than physical features. unfortunately, women but also men have these atavistic archetypes embedded so much in their nature that it is almost impossible to overcome it. only with great conscientious effort can we fulfill the relationships of today not based on the past but on what we need now.

Zoo is a place where there are too many species on a very little area. what does it mean? new york is also a place where there are too many nationalities and yet they are able to function not together but next to each other. in zoo, they would not be able to function because they would fight with each other. new york is also a kind of zoo, yet they have laws to obey and they understand that obeying the laws is beneficial for them.

we are witnesses to minorities gaining rights throughout the society. it is obvious that minorities have much more difficult times fighting for their rights. for example the german army in the second world war was told the irrational lie that jews and polish were subhumans and that they should be annihilated. yet the army believed it. how easy it is to influence crowds. I am very afraid of having leaders that may do the same thing again. i think that the more respect we have for weaker beings, not only afflicted people but also animals, the more we are able to not let ourselves into the trap of populism and easy solutions.

Mcdonald supports children fund but destroys rainforests with its meat production. it is so paradoxical that once one does good in one way, one feels entitled to not be so good in another way or sphere. it is this moral relativity that is even scientifically accepted to be true. we must always be ready to accept our evil nature but never be willing to feed it. as the old indian sayins says: we have two wolves in ourselves, the good one and the bad one. which one shall win depends on whom we feed.

why people get tattoos on places they do not see? is it because they want to show it to others instead of themselves? why would I do something because of others and not myself? i think that it depends on the maturity of one’s mind. should one accept one with all it merits and demerits, ones strong and weak features, one would not, I believe, the need to exhibit anything. nevertheless, we are never fully mature, luckily, and thus we also would accept our need to not be perfect all the time and accept our faults as well and not make remorses when one acts selfishly. it is difficult to accept ourselves but God created us even with our inabilities and we should accept them as well. there is nothing fully good and fully evil. take for example artificial pregnancy. we cannot say whether it is good or not. on one hand i think that it is very detrimental because when the body says it should not have a child,then artificially forcing it to have is very bad. on the other, it may bring bliss to the parents. nevertheless, the bliss is not always what we should seek. i think that once one does something according to what one wants and not what one should do, then one feels a kind of moral qualm inevitably. nevertheless, there is always a way for forgiveness and not repeating the action.

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too modern approaches

I watched a document about sexuality of young people, how it changes and what the experts advised to do in order to improve the sexuality and safety of young people. one of the advice was that one should practise masturbation because it helps one to know oneself and that it even helps in future when one has a partner. logically, they used racional arguments about the pressure when one is not sexually active and that it may result in health problems. I fear that racional arguments are not all valid in this case and generally not as well. if they were, then people living in celibacy would be condemned to health problems and other issues stemming from not letting the pressure out. similarly the so called experts claimed that people should not fear to try various sexual experiments. this may result in people instead of trying to find intimacy in a couple, easily evading the responsibility and difficulty of living in a couple and finding a new lover. i also read an article which supported the claim that people should try bisexual or homosexual activities to learn whether they like it or not. i imagine that some may find a pleasure in it as the decadent societies did but not because they were homosexual by birth but rather spoilt and perverse. instead on working on one’s sexuality that is naturally heterosexual, one tries to find pleasure in different kinds of sexual behaviour that is after all damaging rather than pleasurable- and not all pleasure is good for us. pleasure must be served by hard work on the relationships, not easily gotten. it is a kind of epitome of today’s society that we throw things away rather than repairing them. the view that we should make men and women equal is twisted in many ways. a woman is generally weaker physically but stronger emotionally. it does not apply to all men and women but is valid in most cases. men should be gentlemen and caress women, women should then be an emotional support to men because men do not understand all the nuances of empathy. similarly in sexuality. achieving climax for women is much more complex and complicated issue than with men. women usually need empathy to be able to achieve the climax, while men are much more physical, not emotional. we should not try to ignore it but rather accept the differences and appreciate them equally than trying to strive for ˋequalityˋat all costs. should men feel angry because their climax is much faster and easier than women’s, we would not have healthy happy relationships. we should not be egotistical but accept women as not slower in achieving orgams but rather different and see it as beneficial- we can learn so much from them. see that emotions are as valuable in relationships and sexuality than just the physical technique. we men also should not try to be pragmatic and utilitarian in relationships but rather learn that the differences should not divide us but learn the solidarity, humbleness and respect for differences.
i do not want to sound too conservative but i do not believe in progress at all costs. i think that many of the modern approaches, gender studies , gay pride parades and so on are much more detrimental to our perception of body and gender than the conservative view. i support development but i do not believe that everything that is old is ready to be thrown away, rather it should be revisited and repaired if needed

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why look for a religion?

I had a discussion, or an argument rather about the futility of east realgion in our western society. my thesis was that there is not really a need to delve into east religions like Hinduism, Buddhism or any other such religions because they are only contextually relevant to the people living in the context of the particular country. there is no need to have theme here, because one finds everything one need in Christianity- as well as Hindu people find what they need in Hinduism. I personally do not believe in Buddha as a kind of god, yet I do not claim that Buddhist come to hell, as christians imagine. nevertheless, the message of love, compassion and mercy that is central to a happy life and well being is implemented into any known accepted religion. why would I want to become a Buddhist, if everything I can find there is already in the religion of our culture , geography and context of our country. little I want to sound generalizing yet I think that people turning away from traditional religions are more or less exhibitionist that need the attention of others. if one does not find God here, then one does not find God in any other part of the world. God is in our heart, not in any other country, culture or alikehhhh

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Uncanny perception of fake goods

Uncanny feeling is a concept coined and first elaborated on by Ernst Jentsch and later by Sigmund Freud. One gets uncanny feeling once it is difficult to distinguish between truth and illusion, for example when you see a stump in the dark and cannot make out whether it is a person sitting or just a stump. it is also widely used throughout the world of robotics where it was used my mori masahiro, a japanese inventor, who also coined the term the uncanny valley- a phase where we stop liking a humanoid robot because it looks too much like a robot and too little like it was meant to look-robotically. when sometimes comes too much to resemble ourselves, we start ot dislike it. though a psychological term, i think that it can be applied on the world of fashion as well. i think that although uncanny feeling created a sense of disenchantment and sometimes even a creepy feeling, when we cannot distinguish between a brand that we know and a fake, we get also a kind of awkward feeling. the need to distinguish between truth, reality and falsehood, lie, illusion is very intrinsically embedded into our human nature. we want to either be accepted by the society, unfortunately today’s society requires certain standards among which also fashion brands are included. or ,and that is the reason why fake goods are being created, to make a semblance of belonging to the certain class by wearing fake garments by expensive fashion brands. i do not claim that by looking at fakeries we get scared as when we cannot discern between truth and reality, nevertheless, I believe that the inability to distinguish makes us a little bit concerned about how it really is. the need to distinguish between genuine and fake is quite essential and when we are unable to do it, then principally be it fear or just not being sure about the brand I wear is very similar. on one hand, we should be ready to accept that there is nothing sure in this world, on the other, we have the right to try to have things as certain as we can because certainty is what makes us feel good in this world. concerning fashion, i think that certainty that I wear a fake good is much more conspicuous than discovering the fact that i was betrayed and bought a fake good. once discovering that i have a fake good, be it a shirt or a mobile, i feel betrayed and although there may not be a difference in quality or other consequences, i feel let down. that is the reason why we should be both- keen to know the truth and be aware that the truth may not come right away and that it might be different from what i want it to be

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semblance of true contact

With the beginning of winter I saw an ice-skating area created on the main square in the city of Brno where I live. I watched the people going in rounds around and around till they got bored of it. I think I can draw a parallel to the menagerie of our lives that are very often lived in the neverending cycles that change from time to time when we get bored of them. after all, is there something wrong about it? one might say that ice skating can be much more interesting on the pond or a lake or a maybe a frozen creek. that is definitely right and the people in the city usually get only semblance of reality, kind of simulacrum-semblance of the genuine thing. take for example shopping malls that try to create the atmosphere of a spacious house where the family is happy and content, enjoys the evening but the ultimate goal of shops is to sell as much as possible and to support consumerism. it makes me disenchanted when all the shop assistans and other people in direct contact with customers smile artificilly and wish a merry christmas and a beautiful day although the second after they cast their eyes from you they would not recognize you again. i think that we are moving more and more to the paradigm of semblance of reality instead of genuine feelings. naturally, the shop assistants may not feel well at the time of selling, but would not the customer feel much better once he knew that the shopper is true instead of virtually lying to him? i do not claim that i do not from time to time make us of not being genuine in contact with people that are not of much importance to my life, but is not after all everyone, even the shop assistant worth the same value as anyone else? maybe the customers should start to feel sympathetic towards them and the cashiers would maybe feel accepted as people, not as machines (that are replacing them rapidly) and would mutually start to create a feeling of true human liaison- even towards the customers that they do not know and might start to feel the obligatory phrases of wishing you well genuinely

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